Reflections- what nourishes and resources you? Can you think of times in your life when you felt really well- safe, peaceful, and relaxed? How does it feel in your body, and feeling state, when you recall that? Can you gift yourself with something that feels really pleasurable, and nourishing? A bath, a massage, a treat, something pleasurable? Can you notice how your state changes, as you give yourself something pleasurable? Can you notice how you feel when you get stressed? What emotions are present? And what happens if you bring your attention to something instead that feels nourishing, and soothing? Eg, your breath, or a hand on your heart? Does your emotional state change in any way?
Honouring the Ebb and Flow.
Somatics is a way of wholeness, being in right relationship with all parts of life, including our body rhythms. The world we live in however more often than not, teaches us to disconnect from our bodies, and instead push and strive in ways that are more mechanical than honouring of our organic natures.
As we explored in part one, our nervous systems function like a wave, with ideally healthy cycles of sympathetic ( doing) and parasympathetic ( resting). As we tune in to our bodies, we can get the feedback as to where we are on this pendulum swing, and find ways to bring balance.
Often when it comes to stress, we are taught that to “do more, and faster” is the way to deal with it, get it done, then take a break. But this actually often just increases the stress, and takes away our ability to feel peaceful and at ease, or even to do a job well. Stress is an emotional happening, as well as a biological one. When we self soothe, we can change our feeling state as well as our body state; it is a continuum.
This is an invitation to try something different, which may even be radical from our culture’s perspective. When you feel yourself getting stressed, can you try taking a pause, and self soothing, before you go back to any “doing?”. Can you bring your attention to what feels soothing, and nourishing, even for a few moments?
This could be as simple as a hand on your heart, or on your forehead, giving yourself a hug, or asking someone else for one. Stress activates our limbic system, a primal part of our brain which is soothed by movement, touch, and social interactions that feel safe, and loving . Your invitation here is to explore regulating stress through the sensory and social pleasures. Enjoy!
“ You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees, For a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body Love what it loves” Wild Geese, Mary Oliver.
paradigm. shift- when we self care, its sustainable- actually in the long run. Avoids illness, etc,,,estimated 60 % disease is stress related. The alit of our doing, presence, and regulating.
Very subtle, so ingrained, this is where the self awareness somatic practice comes in, catching what is th underling dynamic to my behaviours, my doing?
Creating a boundary, slowing it down, saying no, re-direcitng- the